Sometimes not all things are worth your reaction, not all things are worth a discussion. It has taken me a really long time to figure this out and it is something I work on constantly every single day. Sometimes one thing may be a big deal to you and one thing may be important to you, but not to someone else so you may feel like you need to express it. This can cause an argument between you and another person especially if they do not understand why what you are discussing or bringing to light is so important to you. This is where knowing when do bring things up and when not bring things up comes into play. In the grand scheme of life not all things are super serious and need to be discussed or brought to like at a level 110. Sometimes in order to love we have to compromise and that means prioritizing things and figuring out what’s important to talk about or discuss and what is something that you can keep to yourself that really is not as bothersome.
This has been something that in my current relationship that has caused me many issues and i have had to work frequently on. Due to my mental illness i tend to take things and feel they are more serious then they are at times. Something that may not be that serious or important to someone else to me becomes like life and death. Before my medication was changed i always felt like things where so serious and i would get really upset with the people in my life who i loved that did not also take it as serious as i did. It would hurt my feelings and make me feel like they where not validating or prioritizing how i was feeling or my emotions. It took a lot of emotional mental clarity and medication change for me to finally see things clearly and realize not everything needs to be discussed and not everything needs to be brought to life. Life i so short at times and at other times life is long, but what i do know is i want to live as happy a life as possible and in the grand scheme of things and in this crazy thing we call life who moved the coffee pot, instead of me just moving it back to the previous spot is not worth the same level argument or does not need the same amount of energy as something for serious like a betrayal of trust for example. I really had to learn to prioritize my feelings and emotions and how to compartmentalize what needs to be brought up and what doesn’t. Even if i have to sit by myself for a few moments to let those emotions of irritation or those moments of being annoyed pass; it is better to do that than to start an unnecessary argument.
August 16, 2020
Written By: Amanda Paige Medina